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Pronouns are ey/em/eir. Do not refer to me by gendered terms like "girl" or "dude".

This blog is mostly for callouts, or PSAs to do with accessibility and/or safety. I also sometimes post things here that I don't feel safe and/or comfortable talking about on my general blog.

As for me, I'm a genderfluid (DFAB) Autistic, mentally ill, learning disabled person; I'm in the middle class, and I have racial privilege. I live in the UK, so the concept of "white person" is kind of simplistic when it comes to talking about our systematic racism, but for what it's worth I am also a white person in addition to benefiting from racial privilege in my country of residence.



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Reblogged from misandry-mermaid

professional-professional said: Would you like it in the vag or ass when I rape you?

shoorkmachine:

a-man-n-progress:

rennskye:

misandry-mermaid:

At least now that I disabled Anonymous asks, your own face is attached to your pitiful hatemail.

image

And if you recognize this ugly mug, shoot me a name!

Thanks.

ETA: He’s been tracked down.

HIS NAME IS BRANDON BAYARD AND HE LIVES IN SUPERIOR, WISCONSIN.

Reblog the shit out of this so it shows up on every background search done by every guy trying to hire him ever.

REBLOGGING THIS ALWAYS, FUCK THIS PIECE OF SHIT

The last I saw this post, this user was actually using someone else’s picture in their profile picture, and while the person pictured might be Brandon Bayard, he is not user professional-professional. Anyone is free to confirm/deny this

i saw the same as shoorkmachine - screencaps from a 4chan thread (iirc) where someone admitted to making that account and sending that message as a way of indirectly harassing the person pictured/implicated.

Reblogged from cr-zytalk

Anonymous said: do other people with depression sometimes think, during really bad periods, that there's some overarching force in the universe with the sole purpose of ruining your life? it never makes sense later but i'll go through 2-4 hour periods where i'm convinced that this is true.

ultimatescammer:

cr-zytalk:

Hm. I’ve never experienced this, but it doesn’t sound abnormal to me. If you experience this, then it’s valid. 

However. This does ring to me more like a “delusion” than typical depression (which is what I have experienced). Keep an eye on that, anon, if it starts to happen frequently. 

But honestly, it just sounds like you’re having a really terrible time of it, and your brain is making sense of it as best as it can. 

good luck, friend. -mod rosie

this is something i can relate to a bunch and for me i think it is partly a bpd thing but it can also be a psychotic depression thing? good luck anon on the difficult road of Brain, I hope things get better or at least easier to deal with :(

i consistently believe that there’s something bad about me that everyone else knows/believes and i’m not aware of, sometimes i believe it’s a group of people going around and telling people things about me and sometimes i believe it’s a supernatural aura which makes others react badly to me, that makes my life harder and results in my consistent and apparently nonsensical difficulties in making/keeping friends

i have depression and also “psychosis not otherwise specified” (aka i have psychotic symptoms but they aren’t related to a particular diagnosis or disorder at this time)

Reblogged from colorskit
goldenheartedrose:

autisticlynx:

colorskit:

Realize the strengths of children with autism, not their weaknesses.

I was a liar and a cheater as a kid
who even wrote this

To answer your question that I think was probably rhetorical but I’m taking as not: the author is the same one as the “Ten Things Every Autistic Child Wishes You Knew” or something like that. She’s an allistic mother of an autistic kid.

"i don’t tattle on my classmates"
are you kidding, i was the worst for this when i was a kid, because There Are Rules and You Must Follow Rules and The Rules Say that when someone misbehaves you should tell a teacher

goldenheartedrose:

autisticlynx:

colorskit:

Realize the strengths of children with autism, not their weaknesses.

I was a liar and a cheater as a kid

who even wrote this

To answer your question that I think was probably rhetorical but I’m taking as not: the author is the same one as the “Ten Things Every Autistic Child Wishes You Knew” or something like that. She’s an allistic mother of an autistic kid.

"i don’t tattle on my classmates"

are you kidding, i was the worst for this when i was a kid, because There Are Rules and You Must Follow Rules and The Rules Say that when someone misbehaves you should tell a teacher

self-care ends where others’ boundaries begin

there’s this thing that happens sometimes:

  • someone’s feeling down
  • so they ask someone else to do something with them, but the other person says no for whatever reason
  • the first person gets angry, saying the other person is sabotaging their self-care routine

it also happens like this:

  • someone starts stimming using another person’s body (e.g. stroking their hair, flexing their fingers)
  • the other person, uncomfortable with this, asks them to stop
  • the first person gets angry, saying they need to stim and that the other person is being mean by not letting them use their body to do so

and like this:

  • after an argument, one person is still angry and starts harassing the other person (e.g. calling them names, reading their blog when asked not to)
  • the other person enforces a boundary that they don’t want to be contacted by the first person, at least for the time being
  • the first person gets angry, saying that the harassing behaviour is part of their self-care in the wake of the argument, and that the other person is sabotaging said self-care by enforcing a boundary

just because doing something is a self-care activity for a person, doesn’t mean it’s exempt from the usual rules of respecting other people’s boundaries:

  • other people’s boundaries are to be respected at all times, not just when it’s convenient to do so

  • behaviours that would be abusive in other contexts don’t stop being abusive just because they’re inspired by a desire for self-care

  • people taking care of their own mental health is important, but not to the extent that it makes abusing other people okay

self-care is important, but there are lots of ways to do it without disrespecting or harassing others:

  • a good self-care activity should rely mostly on the person themself, and things they can do for themself

  • this is important for the person themself too, because it means they can self-care even when nobody’s around to help them

  • most effective self-care activities involve stepping back from a situation and soothing oneself with positive experiences, i.e. experiences that create and heal. abusing other people is a negative experience, i.e. an experience that destroys and damages

if you’ve been abused by someone who claimed it was because it was for their own mental health/self-care, i want you to know:

  • it wasn’t your fault
  • your boundaries are very important; nobody else’s problems trump your boundaries
  • you deserve to have your boundaries respected
  • your mental health is just as important as other people’s

if you’re worried you’ve perpetrated this dynamic without meaning to, i want you to know:

  • it’s possible to apologise to the people you hurt. they don’t owe you an acceptance, but it might help mend any damage done
  • the best thing you can do is to try and prevent the same problem arising again
  • it’s possible to still take care of yourself without perpetrating this dynamic
  • if the only coping mechanisms you know at the moment are ones that hurt other people, i promise you it’s possible to change that situation. i promise you it’s possible to find things that will still help you and not hurt other people at the same time
  • taking care of your mental health is still important, please don’t disregard yourself. just be sure to respect others’ boundaries
Reblogged from dramahound

Anonymous said: youre an inspiration

ultimatescammer:

dramahound:

uvu thanks friendo~

if anyone ever continually mistreats and manipulates you; crush them

Show no remorse. They do not deserve your empathy and they do not deserve to be treated with decency.

no matter what anyone says your mental health is what is important.

yes lets crush hhk

"they do not deserve to be treated with decency" sounds an awful lot like "if i decide someone’s done something i don’t like, or if i just decide i don’t like someone, then i can treat them however i want - and nobody can argue, because it’s good for my own mental health"

which is… kind of abusive l m a o

Reblogged from bathrobehugs

if you have trypophobia, please make sure you install tweaks from xkit and hide the tumblr radar from the sidebar! there’s an image in it at the moment which would be very bad for someone with such a phobia to see.

if you have a reclaimed slur in your url/blog title/description/etc

pleasepleaseplease make sure you have it written somewhere in your about or sidebar or something, that you are from the demographic that the slur is primarily targetted at (and therefore that you are actually able to reclaim the slur)

it will save everybody a lot of strife and confusion and hurt

and the worst part is, it's often exactly the same quiz

  • self-diagnosis, which is apparently bad: take an online quiz while sat at home or in a library, get a numerical score which determines whether you have the condition or not, that's it
  • professional diagnosis, which is apparently good: take an offline quiz while sat in a doctor's office, get a numerical score which determines whether you have the condition or not, possibly get charged hundreds of dollars for the privilege
I found my tangle collection in the boxes my mum packed me from home!
I don’t remember much about… any of them. Except the purple one; that was given out from the council division who catered to special educational needs and getting disabled people into work in my home town. (I think it’s neat that a division like that would give out stim toys to promote themself…)
I’m pretty sure there are more I didn’t find, too, but I think this is already a significant bunch >_>
The pastel one is my favourite, because it’s the quietest/smoothest. Yes. I haven’t actually tried the fuzzy one, because I’m worried if I handle it that the flocking will fall off, but it looks so soft…

I found my tangle collection in the boxes my mum packed me from home!

I don’t remember much about… any of them. Except the purple one; that was given out from the council division who catered to special educational needs and getting disabled people into work in my home town. (I think it’s neat that a division like that would give out stim toys to promote themself…)

I’m pretty sure there are more I didn’t find, too, but I think this is already a significant bunch >_>

The pastel one is my favourite, because it’s the quietest/smoothest. Yes. I haven’t actually tried the fuzzy one, because I’m worried if I handle it that the flocking will fall off, but it looks so soft…